My Dearest ,
Happy Thursday! It feels so GOOD to be alive, especially now that this weather is getting colder :) Over the last few days I've been thinking about how this cold weather is a metaphor for finding love, so let me explain:
As I wake up daily (around 5:30 AM) to go running, I can't but feel an overwhelming need to stay in my extremely comfortable and warm bed for an extra hour or so. After all, it's been 26F (-4 C) these last few days and running in complete darkness under freezing cold and is not exactly an appealing thought for most people. Let me be more specific - it is not appealing to me :)
So what does this have to do with love and why on earth do I do it then, well, the thing is, although getting up is not a fun process and the first few minutes of running I literally feel like my face and my hands are about to fall of, something pretty amazing happens after I stick with it for a few more minutes, I feel an overwhelming sense of aliveness and energy.
So the initial resistance that I experience is almost equivalent to the price I have to pay to feel this rush of well-being and pride (for getting myself to do something that most people simply don't have the discipline to do).
Love is EXACTLY like this. On the short term, it feels way easier to stay closed off, not smile at someone, not say yes, avoid connecting. And it's also easy to confuse this resistance of feeling vulnerable with your intuition messaging you and saying "no, don't do this". Getting really uncomfortable is, in many ways, the most crucial step you need to come to terms with if you want to create a meaningful relationship with someone that you really care about.
So next time you start feeling the pull to do what feels "comfy", get uncomfortable instead, once you break through the initial shock of going for it, you'll also get to feel the excitement, aliveness, fun, fulfillment, passion and gratitude that comes from connecting with another human being even when it's not an easy process.
